Reach out and Touch Someone

In these times of unrest on the planet we are all faced with trials and tribulations that test us and cause us to change and grow in our evolutionary paths. As these events take place, it is wise for us all to reach out and share with all of humanity not only what we are experiencing, but as well to share what we learn from them. This is the way that we grow and come to a feeling of peace and empowerment within.

This is what this page is all about. I was so moved by the wonderful responses I received to my reaching out that I was inspired to post some of the emails I received. I thank each and every one of you for being who you are, and for reaching out to me and sharing yourselves with me. Now I share you with the world.

Below is a compilation of many of the emails I received in response to what I termed My Own Wake up Call. It was heartwarming and inspiring to be able to share, and see that indeed Spirit is at work, as always.

Hi folks,

I want to share with you my own wake up call that I got yesterday as my day progressed. This was not a wake up call that was like any of the others, yet in a way it embodied much of what the others have said. That is in that it represents to me a growth through a trial I brought to myself with the co-operation of the Universal Spirit.

Some of you read the email I sent out on Thursday night saying that after hearing of my son-in-laws imminent departure for training to prepare for active duty in Iraq, I was so overcome with emotion that I turned right around and announced that I would go back to Maine to ‘be there’ for my daughter and grandchildren in this time of need. I sent this ‘wonderful news' out to some people who are dear to me. I felt that this was the answer to the unsettlement I had been feeling lately, and so I jumped at this inspired answer to my dilemma of what to do to make a change in my life.

The next morning I awoke and as I lay there I realized that something was amiss. I wasn’t sure what it was, but as the minutes went by I became more and more aware that there was nothing there, no feeling, no emotion, just this numbness that pervaded every cell. I didn’t think that I had passed over, but I also didn’t really feel in my body. So I lay there and tried to find an answer to what I was experiencing. I remembered what had transpired the night before, but I couldn’t come to a feeling, no emotion over it.

Finally I got up and took Toshiro out, and fed him. I then went to the computer, I guess to search for evidence of what I had done the night before. Did I really tell people that I would move back to Maine, and who was it I told? I found a few responses supporting what I had decided. I also found some others that expressed confusion. What was this turn around? The day before I had passionately written to friends and family of Bob’s and my immanent move further north in NM. Now this news; it didn’t make sense to them. As I sat at the computer in a stupor, I answered one of the emails that questioned my decision. It went like this:

“I find myself in a very precarious feeling right now. I woke up this morning feeling like I am completely alone and without feelings I can trust. After the strong feeling last night to go to be with (my daughter) and the kids, I now don't feel that way. It's like it is too much to bear, and I don't know what to do about it. I feel like a stone that cries tears that mean nothing, and yet more than I can bear.

I think there is something going on here that is bigger than what brought it on. I don't know how to feel about spirit and I don't know if I ever will again. There is a part of me that knows this too shall pass. It is as if there are two of me feeling and expressing in my body right now, and they are at war with each other. Part of me feels like a coward for not wanting to go to Maine, and part of me says that it wouldn't be of help because I can't even help myself.”

I wrote this in answer to another friend:

“When I wrote that email last night I was in a state of mind that made it feel right to do that. This morning I woke up feeling very much different, in fact I am just now beginning to feel a little like I can cope with the world. I was in bad shape this morning, like I was nothing and had no feelings. After I finally could talk with Bob about it I began to feel better, and now I think I know what was going on. I had, in deciding to go to Maine, given my life away to someone else, and I simply had shut down. I'm not going to Maine; at this time in my life I am at a new beginning of what I do, and I would be greatly mistaken to give that away.”

You see, folks, I had simply followed the same old pattern that had been my habit and way of life in this lifetime, and in others, I’m sure. In an important time in my life I had been given an opportunity to throw it all away and give my life over to someone else, or to send love and light and offer to help in any way I can, from my position in life that honored what I had chosen for myself.

When I once again followed that old habit, after feeling that I had grown beyond that, I simply shut down. Over the course of the night’s sleep, whatever communication took place between my old self and the present one was evident in the stupor I was in the next morning. I had once again given away my power and so what else was there to live for. The fight was too hard to bear, and the passion gone.

As the day went on and I decided to get into life again it all became clearer. I could see what I had done. I wrote back to my daughter explaining as best I could that I am not going to go back and be there for her. Here is what I wrote to her:

Dear (daughter),

“Now that it is morning, and I am out of the shock of your news, I am thinking clearer, and with less emotion. I realize that my saying that I would drop everything and rush to your side was coming from my desire to protect my daughter and grandchildren. As your mother I wanted to take care of you once more; I could feel your pain.

The thing is I could feel my pain too, and I know that to give up what I am doing now would not serve you or me. If I did that I would be saying that I don't trust that God is taking care of this. Anything I can do from here, I will do. I can give you assurance that all will be well. I can be here for you to talk to on the phone and in emails. I can also give you the respect that you deserve to know that you can do fine with this time of your life. I know you can for you are strong.

There is always the possibility that (my son-in-law) may not have to go over there. The reports about soldiers and conditions over there that are coming out indicate that there is much unrest about being there at all. I've enclosed this following transcript of one soldier's words about being there:

“THE TROOPS WANT OUT, SOON

Speaking of the troops in Iraq, recent polling reveals that nearly 3 out of 4 of U.S troops in Iraq think the U.S. should exit the country within the year, and more than one in four say the troops should leave immediately. The Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff admits also that the Iraqis want us to leave "as soon as possible."

Here are some pertinent comments by a U.S. soldier in Iraq, writing as "djtyg," about why the desire to leave that country:

"We need to get out because our military cannot take much more of this. We are stretched too thin and it's about to get worse. ... Soldiers are frustrated. Every soldier I have talked to says that they are getting out of the military when they get home. Every. One. Of. Them. Regardless of rank, experience, or time in, they all want out. There has not been a single Soldier I've talked to that says they want to stay in. This includes officers, NCOs, and rookies who are on their first tour of duty. We need to get out of Iraq because Iraq is the reason why the military is shrinking. We, like Cindy Sheehan, are curious as to what 'noble cause' we are fighting for. We can't seem to find one. This is weakening America. At the rate we are going, we are going to have a military that can't fight because it has old and broken down equipment, and no troops to fight a war with."

“Please know that I feel that you are all going to look back on this time in your lives later and see why this has come to be. You'll see that it was indeed a plan that you and God entered into for your benefit. That may be difficult to see right now, but thinking back on your life, I'll bet you can see how this kind of thing has proven to be a true gift from God in the long run. I've certainly seen that in my life.

Love, Mom”

Well folks, I felt the strong urge to share this with you. How many people across the country and the world even are experiencing this kind of thing right now? How many people are giving up their lives for someone or something else and wondering why they feel so empty? If there is anyone reading this who feels a spark of familiarity with my story, then maybe this has come to you to give you pause to think about the other side of the picture that you are painting for your life.

Many of us have been conditioned to always put others first in our lives. That is the noble and loving thing to do. That is also the co-dependent thing to do. We are now discovering that when we do that we dishonor our reason for being here, and we dishonor the purpose of the others’ being here. We are all one, and everything that we do affects the whole. Now is the time to bring that truth into everything that we do, and know that what we do for us, we do for all. That is truly the free and loving thing to do.

Thank you all for listening and allowing me to share with you an important life lesson. We can bring ourselves to the precipice many times and until we make that leap and on the way down look back and exclaim, “Oh, oh!” we don’t get the depth of that lesson. When we do, then our world opens up wide for us, and we sail back to solid ground and into our new life with passion and purpose, free of the old encumbrances, free to soar into eternity in unison with All there Is.

I love you all so very much!

Love,

Nancy

Below you will find some of the responses to my own Wake up Call:

Dear Nancy,

My heart goes out to you also, but I know you must do what you are feeling to do, and be with your family at this time. Hatton is right and much will be gained from this experience. We areall needing to switch gears right now, and go places or do different things than before, so you too must heed this calling. We will all be with you in Spirit and send you along with so much Love, Light, Blessings and Peace. We are all so blessed to know you and to read your words daily, and know that if you can write, that you will.

God Bless You Nancy and be with you.  Have a wonderful journey.

Namastè

LoveLight and Peace,

C

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Nancy,

Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability in sharing this. What you did is actually a major step in helping to break up the indoctrinated belief systems of what relationships, role models etc are supposed to do, be, etc.

I have experienced a similar situation recently. I had to ask myself "what do I want", am I just responding to this emergency like this is something I have to do, as a dutiful wife, mother or whatever?    

It felt was that I was responding to the situation under the old patriarchal survival energy system of what was expected of me.  As soon as I let go, walked away, and stood in my truth, no matter what came back, not only did my life magically change, but also the life of the other person involved magically changed.  They eventually created the circumstances for their own growth to become sovereign beings and that is their perfection, no matter how it might appear externally. All I had to do was to be me and be true to myself.

That is going with the flow, letting the Universe know what we want to create and then stepping back, trusting innocently and observing it manifesting without being attached to the outcome. 

Namaste

D

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Dear Nancy,

WOW..... this is really special. It's become so clear to me over the last month that more and more of us are understanding our lives and our life purpose. It's so true that we are NOT here to serve others first. That is the old energy and it's the Patriarchal or Masculine survival energy that dominates that aspect.

We are now moving into a much more balanced energy of Masculine & Feminine. This balance requires us to shed the notion that we exist to serve others. We now are more fully realizing we HAVE to serve our needs first, all else comes after our needs are met.

This energy also is requiring that we create in the NOW moment. It doesn't make any difference what we decided yesterday, or even an hour ago ! We as individual aspects of God are creating moment to moment, according to our divine plan.

Thank You for sharing your wonderful experiences with us ! We are truly blessed.

Love,

D

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Nancy,

Thank you for sharing your process for unraveling this pattern. It is helpful to those of us dealing with similar/parallel issues. Just this morning, I was reading some notes which seem particularly appropriate for you at this time, so I shall share:

Patterns are triggered in us to handle stress. They are a rigid automatic responses. While they don't ever completely go away, they do diminish. When you find yourself trapped in a pattern,

do your best to REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE  and return to Higher Self. Deep connected breathing followed by holding the breath keeps your nervous system pliable and soft.

Life will dangle worms before you. You do not have to take the bait and end up in the ice chest.

ls

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This is a universal happening for most everyone right now.  I too have in the last couple of years realized how much we all give away and how draining it is to be "in service" to others.  We are each here to enjoy our lives and give what we wish, but to realize the difference between giving and giving in.

Blessings,

R

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Hi Nancy,

I’ve always been a rescuer of my friends. I found out that by helping them to the point I am no longer happy, I was truly giving my power away. I had to stop that pattern as well. For me it is like (friend) said we are meeting new people and moving to where we belong and also recognizing our patterns and breaking free from all of them. It is a powerful feeling to see that. Bless you for who you are and what you do.

Much love and light to you,

L

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Dear Nancy Tate,

I have been reading your wakeup calls for quite some time now and it is high time to send my thanks for the devoted work you are doing for the world. We live in special times, no doubt, with special challenges as a result. The circumstances of your son-in-law touched me deeply and I can so easily understand your first reaction. But it is definitely right to let every one on this planet experience their own lessons, the way they have chosen to.

Sure we, as mothers have played important roles in the lives of our children and always will, but now it is for us to learn the hard lesson of letting go. How easy it is to write this....there we see the difference of theory and practice clearly.

As I am presently following the call for cleaning up mentally and physically, I am in the process of opening and cleaning out many drawers and closets which were filled many years ago and shut, binding me to the past so effectively and I feel such relieve after emptying an old file and filling

the shredded paper into the plastic sack to be taken to the collection point, that I physically feel lighter. One piece of paper I found, I would like to share with you, for I think the words, which were written in 1942 by the students (and a few professors) of the Munich University, the capitol of Bavaria, in Germany, who had gotten together in the group called "Die Weiße Rose" (the white rose) in protest against the Nazi regime. Sad but true, these words have not lost any of their effective meaning and they are so very acute in these present-days of 2006, that it is sickening.

Translation:

“There is nothing more unworthy for civilized people than letting themselves be ruled by a clique of irresponsible "sovereigns", without resistance. It seems as if the Germans*) are a shallow herd of followers, lacking a will of their own, who agreed to be driven into destruction. But this is not so,

rather, their minds were put into prison, through slow, deceitful, systematic violence, and lying there in chains they awoke to their fate.”

(here one can put just as well other nationalities)

This is an excerpt from the first leaflet of the Weiße Rose group written in 1942....in February 1943 the first members, amongst them Sophie and Hans Scholl, were arrested and executed!

It is really highest time for the people of Earth to wake up and listen to each other, honor and respect the rights of each other, then love may be able to follow and we may all live in peace. Then we can all work together towards saving and healing this wonderful planet. Since we all are her children.

I greet you my sister

and send you

Love and Light

S

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Oh my dear Nancy! 

How delightful your subject; your own Wake Up Call !!!

As much as it grieves to hear of your pain and dilemma, it is helpful to us sharing these feelings with you. At this time so much is often overwhelming. The immensity of the task, the unfairness -- we want to see changes and we want them now. How much longer must we watch as only the ones with power and money do this without a thought to anyone else? It is as have learned the ways of the darkness, uncaring, disrespectful.

Does your son-in-law have a choice; is he in the military or a guard unit? I see it all the time; families torn apart by wife/mom or husband and father being sent to do this serving of the darkness with no care or respect.

In my own life, seeing the end place where we need to go to do these things is hindered by getting started. Casting off the old to jumpstart the new, while always taking care of the here and now, and everyday, more added to it. It is coming along, just s-l-o-w-l-y.  

What you say spoke directly to me. I am not feeling as alone and low because I was seriously doubting my alignment with the light, and lightworkers. You showed me why I feel so emotionless, drained.  I feel so helpless to the rape of the earth, to the fact that the only ones who can afford to buy the last wonderful wilderness places are those who intend to cause more suffering to mother earth and her creatures through knocking it all down to build palaces on postage stamp lots.

I will go and meditate and give thanks for wonderful you and your love for us as we also love you very much.

In peace, luv and light ~  G D

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Dear Nancy,

Forgive me for offering an unsolicited comment, but I think your first instinct was correct. Perhaps you felt trapped in the past and fear getting into another prison, which would make your second decision understandable. Of course, any decision you make will be respected in the spiritual realm. But we are here to take care of one another, and our ultimate choice is Service-to-Self or Service-to-Others. What could be more fun than taking care of your grandchildren?

I send you love,

D

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Nancy,

Thanks for sharing something so personal. How well I know this of which you speak.  Life's challenges never announce their coming, just show up one day, and for numbing moments, trigger our deep seeded emotions! Enmeshing us in that which is human; Love, doubt, fear, uncertainty!  Until we see it in the light of another day, we punish ourselves with thoughts that we must, should, are required to surrender ourselves, and, sometimes we do!

I've had to come to terms with this reality, more times then I can remember! Finding that once I did come to terms with this truism a release of the spirit frees us to continue our journey. Enabling us to complete that for which we were born! There's one constant we can be certain of, as long as we live, challenges. 

But then there are moments of wondrous awakenings, which lift the spirit to levels with the gift of unfathomable highs!  Inevitably the lesson is to learn how to live life, one day, one creative moment at a time.

Warm regards and thank you for all that you share.

B

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YES YES YES

I am a mother and grandmother also.  I was married to an alcoholic for over 30 years;

co-dependency ruled my being.

I, like you, am on this path.  Thank you for your honesty and your words.

I am doing the TNT radio News a couple of times a week. I so appreciated reading your letter from the soldier in Iraq. I would appreciate it if you get any more like these to email them to me.  I like to get this message out when I am on air.

Much, much love and light to you as you know, I LOVE your wake up call.

When it doesn't come some days, I ALWAYS miss it.

Love, D

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Hi Nancy,

I have read all your emails you send and enjoy reading them all. I have never written to you before but I felt lead to respond to this letter. I also have a son, daughter-in-law and grandson in the Army. My son and grandson have both been to Iraq. I am thankful they both got home safe. My Daughter-in-law is in the reserves and on an 18th month duty here in the States. She has been in San Antonio, TX since Aug. My son and her have two children and one on the way. I do the best to help my son with babysitting, a 20 month old and 14 yr old. I am 65 years old and work full time. I watch the kids every Sunday, this leaves me one day a week for me.

I could not get excited when I heard they were having another baby. Then I feel guilty about that.

I feel I am on a spiritual path also and should be living a fulfilling life by now and have the money to do it. Instead I work at a housekeeping, care-giving job for two elderly people who are very negative and unappreciative. I know we attract situations to us and believe we create are own reality. I feel exactly like you expressed in your letter, numb, empty, no passion left.

I have started to take more time off work and do more for my self for enjoyment. I have even thought of selling my home and getting a motorhome and just going. Don't know where. I don't want to feel like I am running a way but I feel I have raised four kids starting when I was eighteen. I also have seven other grandkids I did my share of babysitting and I love then all dearly. But know it is my time to enjoy life. I have been single since 1989 and it's about time I put myself first.

I feel this Army stuff and duty to your country does put a lot of in situations where they feel guilty if they are not helping out. I didn't tell my kids to join the army and I know all of my family in the army did it for the money. I believe most of the service people do. Most people don't enjoy fighting. I didn't vote for this President nor do I believe in support for this war.

Well I guess I have vented enough on this subject. I am so glad you shared your thoughts on this and I am sure there are many more out there that feel the same.  Please stay on you spirit lead path it will just encourage others to do the same. That would be the most noble thing to do.

Much Love,

H   

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Dear Nancy Tate:

The final "faux pas" on the spiritual path is: "In the name of love, I will sacrifice myself for others."

The final insight on the spiritual path is: "To love oneself unconditionally is to know God."

The corollary of this insight is: "To not love oneself unconditionally is to be God without knowing God."

This corollary represents the normal human condition.

In Love's pure Light, with profound appreciation and gratitude for the dedicated service that you are rendering,

All-is-one, Heartsong

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Dear Nancy,

A wonderful confirming message for all of us.  I like the idea that we can get stronger in sync when we venture out of sync from time to time, cause I'm very good at that!  A deep thank you for having an open heart.

Sweet love,

S

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Dear Nancy:

I read your wakeup call as I have done for years now and first I would like to say thank you for them and what you have been doing for us all. The wakeup calls have truly saved my life as at times when I was so saddened by the darkness in the World and at times very scared they always came through just at the right time and gave me such hope and made me want to hold on and keep the love and light in my heart and soul shinning out bright to help others as well. I too had a wakeup call a few days ago that I would like to share with you as the message in it I feel will give you some strength and guidance as you have given me over the years so thank you again and here is the story.

On Monday March 6th 2006 I was in my house doing my daily chores and taking care of the precious animals that God has trusted in our care. I heard a squeak and went to see what was happening. I found one of our kitties Salusa with a beautiful catbird. I tried to get her to drop it but she ran under the bed and even though I kept trying to get her to release the poor little bird she would not until I had to scream at her loudly telling her to drop it and lifted the bed. This is something I never do to our babies as we give them the gentlest of care and respect but this was very necessary as the bird was about to be eaten.

She dropped the bird and ran out of the house and I picked the bird up and it appeared in all to be dead. I was so heart broken to see this soft gentle bird dead that I was crying and praying for God to give the bird another chance at life again. After about a minute or three the bird opened it eyes and looked up at me and I was overjoyed. I thanked and thanked God for this miracle of life and put the little bird in a cat cage to rest and calm down and also gave it two drops of rescue remedy and some water.

I kept checking on the bird through the day and each time it looked stronger and I was ready at sunset to set the bird free. I went to the cage took it out said a prayer of thanks to God again for saving the birds life and told the bird I loved it and released it into the air. The bird flew off for a distance but when it went to pitch on the fence it fell to the ground. I rushed over and picked it up and discovered that both legs had been broken from the cat when it was caught.

Crying again I put it back in the cage and started to pray for guidance of what to do for this gentle one and the message came through loud and clear. First I heard, "WHEN YOU LEARN THE MESSAGE, THE BIRD WILL BE FREE". I stopped and thought for a minute and once again I heard the same message and at that time I knew that what the message was that I was supposed to learn was that when I prayed I did not pray for what was best for the whole in the divine plan I had only prayed for the bird to live.

As soon as I realized this I was told "GO TO THE CAGE" and as I did I found the bird dead, and as I started to cry again I heard "LET GO OF THE OUTCOME OF THE SITUATION AS EVERYTHING IS PREFECT IN THE DIVINE PLAN. And I was at peace, for I now knew that whatever happened or happens it is all in the Divine plan and God is GREAT with no mistakes.

I hope in some way this will help your heart and I want you to know I am praying for you with much love and gratitude.

Peace and Love

 J

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Thank you soooo much I really needed to hear this.  I'm going through a very trying time with my son and It's easier to help him and to wait and see how he handles it which is what I most likely should be doing. The pain of waiting on him to take action when there are so many deadlines is excruciating.  I guess I have a few things to learn as well. 

Love and blessings

J

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Dear Nancy,

Thanks you for sharing this with us.  It gives support to all of us who are finding that we're doing things differently than we ever have.  I have been noticing that I seem to be an entirely different person than I was, even a few months ago. I am joyfully discovering that, when I speak or act from my own heart, rather than according to habit or to my perception of someone else's expectations,  my world is a much more loving and peaceful place.

In deciding not to go to Maine, you have empowered your daughter and grandchildren

to make their own way upon their paths, and at the same time, reaffirmed your own beautiful light.  Blessings to you and all of your family,

  S

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Dear Nancy,

I was so touched by your recent missives regarding your responses to your daughter's and son-in-law's predicament. I am sure I would have had the same response in the circumstances, it comes natural to us mothers. However, I do also know what it is like to sacrifice oneself  completely for another and how in the long run this is not the best choice for either party.

Yes, at some time, we have to surrender our children to the Cosmic Mother and Father, and 'trust' that all is in order, that they can cope, and that we do a disservice by preventing them from engaging the process with all its heartache and choices, and ultimate rewards.

So, bless you, Nancy for having the courage to share this with us, and for having the courage to follow the deepest heart choices. I add my healing thoughts to you all. And if there is any 'particular' thought you would like me to have in mind as I hold you all in the light, please let me know.

I send love and light, warmth and understanding to you all, and big cosmic hugs.

M

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Nancy,

That was very well written, came to me at an important time, as well March 11 was a shocking day for several people and myself....on a professional work level.

K

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Thank you so much for this message for this one really touched a cord and opened my eyes. Here I have received the answer to that 'dead' feeling. Now, things can be changed and light can shine again.

Thanks again and all my love to you.

Is

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Dear Nancy, just read your letter, and like any mum I think mine would have been the same, thank you so much for sharing this emotional experience with me as well as well as everyone else. I can understand only too well drop everything and get to your loved ones, its what we do. I’m glad you listened to your higher self, and continue the work you are doing.  It is more likely that you will be able to assist your daughter, and son in law thru spirit,

God be with you and your family, love and light.

V